Saturday, August 1, 2009

Possibly a purpose???

Maybe you all remember this post where I talked about having a purpose in life after the loss of my first born daughter. I have been searching for my purpose, wondering what it is now that I don't have my daughter here with me. After chatting this morning with a new online friend, hope you don't mind me mentioning you Debbie, I think I may have an idea of what my purpose is now.
While pregnant with Moira, I had pregnancy induced hypertension, PIH, and that is possibly what caused Moira's brain damage and eventual death. Moira was as close to stillbirth as you can possibly get. My friend Debbie had PIH as well and her daughter Sophie was stillborn as well. Debbie had a friend who just had a baby who was stillborn and also had PIH. Is there a link to this?? I have no idea, I don't have a medical background, but what I do have is a drive to make people aware of this. I want to make woman aware of this, if you have high blood pressure while pregnant, be aware of ALL of the things that can happen to your unborn baby. Speak up, talk to your OB, you need to be your own advocate. Luckily I have an amazing OB who was keeping an eye one me, but what happened to Moira, noone would have been able to know about it.
So Debbie and I chatted some more and the two of us want to do our research, figure out a way to make woman aware of this and what can happen and to feel empowered to be their own advocate. We have no idea where to begin or where to go, but we are going to figure out something!! :) In October Debbie and I are going to try to meet up when I go with Dave to conference not far from her hometown. That will be so much fun to meet her after all of this time we have been chatting! She has been a wonderful support to me during this awful journey I am on. Sigh....Anyway, thanks Debbie for our chat this morning.


FFG&M said...

My blood pressure has been a bit elevated during this pregnancy & it's because of you & Moira that I have been adamently having my perinatologist test me for protein, checkig my fluid levels, etc. You've already helped inspire & maybe even have saved a baby already! Good luck!

Alison said...

Keep up with that Holly and if it continues to get any higher, make sure that you talk with them about meds. All of those tests, I had done too and everything was normal. I think if I would have been on meds. it might have helped, but we'll never know!! Good luck! I am always thinking of you!

Prather Family said...

I'm so glad you and Debbie are able to help and support each other. I only wish you girls could of become friends under different circumstances. You both deserved to have your babies in this world.

Once you guys figure out what to do with your advocacy, let me know. I would like to help in any way possible.

Your purpose has changed from what you had imagined and I know it still breaks your heart to not have Moira here, but I am glad you can help other mamas out there to avoid loss.

Laura said...

LOVE what you're doing and searching for that purpose! The stories of angels have touched me in such an amazing way- gave me pause- and reflection- and wonder... I still don't understand it but if you don't have a purpose- if you don't give their life a purpose... well- I applaud all angel mamas who share their experiences to make others' journeys a little less lonely... a little easier...
Laura D.